Thursday, February 28, 2008
~ 10:46 PM ~
Dear friends,
Something that I'd like to share with all of you....
It is common for all of us to have to deal with quite a lot of changes throughout our lives - e.g. chronic illness, failure of relationships, or even changes in routine and new people in work teams. Some of these are harder to accept/adapt to. Here are some strategies that I use, hope that you find them handy as well :)
1) Always be POSITIVE
Theres always good in things that may seem bad initially, its just a matter of spotting them. By being positive and open-minded (as opposed to narrow-minded), one will be better able to spot opportunities instead of being blinded by negatives. If being positive seems too hard to achieve for a start, try smiling. It lifts moods!
2) Try not to be judgemental
Don't condemn a person simply because of one or two instances of bad experience with them. When new people join, it is understandable that they may take some time to adjust their behaviour to fit the culture and social norms of the group/place. Be patient and forgiving.
3) Always think WIN-WIN
Try to think of ways to resolve conflicts where both parties "win". Remember, the only real win that matters is the one where all parties win.
4) Be proactive !!
Try to anticipate problems/issues before they emerge. To "act" instead of "react" often gives one the edge to take charge of how a situation develops.
If one engages in the opposite of all the above (1-4), it is highly likely that one may find oneself stuck in a vicious cycle of destructive thinking, behavior, and self-fufilling prophecies.
hope that you find this useful ;)
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